You is one of Netflix's most successful psychological thrillers, following Joe Goldberg (Penn Badgley) — a bookish, charming stalker and murderer who convinces himself that everything he does is motivated by love. The show ran for five seasons, concluding in 2025, and drew massive viewership throughout its run.
The most interesting — and most troubling — thing about You is that it's genuinely good television. Penn Badgley is charismatic, the writing is sharp, and the show is compulsively watchable. That quality is also what makes it worth examining seriously.
You is told from Joe's first-person perspective. We hear his inner monologue, we understand his rationalizations, and — crucially — we often find ourselves agreeing with his assessments before being horrified by his actions. The show is extraordinarily effective at creating intimacy with a man who stalks, manipulates, and murders. Proverbs 4:23 instructs us to guard our hearts because everything we do flows from it. Spending five seasons in the mind of a predator — rooting for him, understanding him, finding him attractive — is not a neutral spiritual exercise.
You contains graphic violence, sexual content, strong language, and extended sequences of stalking and psychological manipulation. Later seasons are more graphically violent than early ones. The show is unambiguously TV-MA throughout.
Defenders argue that it teaches viewers to recognize manipulation and predatory behavior. There's some truth to this. But this argument works better in theory than in practice. The show's structure — Joe's sympathetic inner monologue, his genuine love for his son, his moments of real kindness — consistently pulls viewers toward identification rather than horror. Most viewers don't come away with a clinical understanding of predatory psychology. They come away having found Joe Goldberg compelling.
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